Why it is easier to console others than yourself in a similar situation?
Question by Star: Why it is easier to console others than yourself in a similar situation?
Why it is easier to console others than yourself in a similar situation.
Why it is easier to tell others that there are still some options for you to pursue in life and convince them but impossible to accept it for ourselves .Is it some sort of emotional paralysis.
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Because you aren’t the one freaking out.
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I have found that focusing on others makes me forget about my own sorrows. Maybe that’s the answer.
Sometimes it’s easier to work out problems for someone else because you aren’t as emotionally attached so you can see the situation better, you can tell them solutions their emotions might not let them consider, and you can still offer hope when they have none. When it’s you dealing with something, too much emotion is involved so you fail to be able to use those same strategies.
“Consolation” has at least three ingredients: (1) acceptance of the person and the situation, (2) caring about them, and (3) optimism – firm belief that the situation can improve.
People who can’t console themselves may have been taught in early childhood that they don’t deserve to feel better, and/or they aren’t optimistic about their situation improving. Such people may be controlled by cynical or pessimistic parts of their personality that block merited hope for improvement or relief. If they’re carrying excessive shame, they may not care about themselves the way they care for troubled others. (self neglect)
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